I love gardening. I love the feeling of groundedness I get from working the Earth. During the spring and summer Kermit and I spend a lot of time cultivating our gardens. My back yard neighbors shared our love of gardening and daily spent hours grooming and cultivating their gardens. They filled their yard with exotic trees, shrubs and grasses as well as bulbs and flowers of all colors of the rainbow. They had rock pathways leading to secluded areas perfect for those quiet moments we so enjoy in our gardens. Without a doubt, their gardens were among of the most beautiful in our city.
Two years ago, my neighbors moved and a new family took up residence. Those beautiful gardens required a commitment of time to retain their beauty. The new owners were not gardeners, so although the trees and flowers were still beautiful, they were not groomed. Then yesterday it happened…..the new neighbors drove a backhoe through the yard pulling up the exotic trees, removing the rock pathways and flattening the gardens. Thousands of dollars of bulbs and tubers were crushed and discarded. My first thoughts were, “Oh my goodness! All those beautiful flowers…..gone. All that work to create beautiful gardens…gone. How sad!” The new neighbors wanted more grass on which their children could run and play and rightfully so. And I was reminded that I needed to adjust my attitude. The whole scene reminded me of the Spiritual Law of Detachment and impermanence.
Everything on this earthly plane is impermanent and our happiness depends on our ability to detach. Problems emerge when we attach ourselves to a preferred outcome and we tell ourselves something should not be as it is. This doesn’t mean you give up your intentions to create your desires, but you do need to give up your attachment to the result. As Deepak Chopra writes in his book, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success; “…the moment you relinquish your attachment to the result, combining one-pointed intention with detachment at the same time, you will have that which you desire. Anything you want can be acquired through detachment, because detachment is based on the unquestioning belief in the power of your true self.” I want to repeat that last sentence….”Anything you want can be acquired through detachment, because detachment is based on the unquestioning belief in the power of your true self.
If you have unquestioning belief in the power of your true self, you understand your true self is always guided and empowered by God. When you really know this to be true, whatever you truly desire will be granted. If not in the form you originally thought, it will be something better. Always pray for “This or something better.” God is over all and his solutions are always better than we have envisioned.
Attachment brings fear and insecurity. When we think we cannot be happy unless we have certain “Things” in our life we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. Our ego would like us to believe happiness comes from attachment to things. The reality is that happiness comes from within and can never be found outside of ourselves. The ego attaches to things and whispers to us…”You’ll be happy when…..you get that new job….when you get that new car…..when you get married…..when you get divorced…..when you………on and on it goes. Ego sends you on a never ending pursuit of things, a journey of search and never find.
When you learn to detach, your life blossoms and the pathway to endless possibilities opens up. As Deepak Chopra says of detachment; “…this keeps the mystery, the wonder, the excitement, the adventure alive.” Attachment is always based on clinging to the past. It does not allow for improvement. It closes the door to the endless possibilities that God has in store for us.
Look at problems as an opportunity for some greater benefit. Embrace and accept uncertainty as a necessity for growth. Open the field of all possibilities so you can experience all the joy in life God intends for you.
For now, Earlynn’s just sayin: “Now that our new neighbors have made their changes, I can see those cute little ones running and enjoying the open space and it is good.”
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