The other day I was speaking with a young woman who was so blinded by her ego, she could not truly see the world in which she was living. When you and I believe something to be so, our world becomes a reflection of those thoughts. Others might be able to see our world is a nightmare of our own self inhibiting beliefs, but until we see it ourselves our world will continue to be that nightmare.
When ego is in control our world can be a very unhappy place….insecure, unloving, vindictive and spiraling downward to grief and unhappiness. The following are some of the tactics of the ego:
YOUR EGO WANTS TO BE RIGHT. It is very important to the ego to be right. It will argue for its beliefs even if it means trampling on others. Being right energizes the ego and its sense of self importance.
YOUR HIGHER SELF ISN’T CONCERNED WITH BEING RIGHT. Your Higher Self would rather be kind.
YOUR EGO JUDGES OTHERS HARSHLY WHILE LETTING YOUR OWN FAULTS SLIDE. This young woman had a habit of treating others rudely. She expected others’ respect and forgiveness while justifying her own rude and unforgiving behavior.
YOUR HIGHER SELF ALWAYS TREATS OTHERS WITH RESPECT AND MAKES ALLOWANCES FOR OTHERS’ BEHAVIOR. The Higher Self knows that everyone is doing the best they can based on their current level of consciousness. Forgiveness is not needed because the higher self never judged.
YOUR EGO BELIEVES YOU ARE A VICTIM. Ego believes you are at the mercy of others. Your happiness depends on what others are saying and doing.
Your Higher Self accepts responsibility for your life and understands that happiness comes from within. Nothing outside of you will ever make you happy. Happiness comes from living in alignment with your Higher Self. Your Higher Self understands the law of sewing and reaping. Life will always give back to you that which you have given to others.
YOUR EGO TELLS YOU THAT YOU WILL BE HAPPY WHEN OTHERS CHANGE THE WAY THEY TREAT YOU.
Your Higher Self knows all of us are on an evolving journey to higher consciousness. We are at varying degrees of consciousness. Everyone is making decisions based on their current level of understanding. Your Higher Self is independent of the good opinion of others. What others think is just that….their opinion. Your Higher Self knows happiness comes from within not from anything or anyone outside of you.
YOUR EGO JUMPS TO UNFOUNDED CONCLUSIONS ABOUT WHY OTHERS DO WHAT THEY DO. Your ego says you are better than others and twists what others do to prove how superior you are.
Your Higher Self assumes the best intentions of others and does not pass judgment.
YOUR EGO BELIEVES YOU ARE SEPARATE FROM OTHERS. It believes you are alone and separate. It does not understand oneness.
Your Higher Self knows we are all extensions of God and we are one. That which blesses one blesses all. And that, which hurts one, hurts all. As extensions of God we have a spark of divine within. In some, that spark is deeply buried, but it is still there. Because we are one no one can ever teach you a spiritual principle that you do not already know at a very deep level.
YOUR EGO DOES NOT UNDERSTAND THE VALUE OF THE PRESENT MOMENT. As long as ego keeps you in the past or the future – avoiding the present moment – it is in control. The ego thinks the present moment is either a nuisance to be endured while getting to a future time or a block to remembrance of the past. The ego gets its’ identity from your past and believes better things are in your future. It sends you on an endless chase of seeking and never finding. It says you’ll be happy when…..others treat you better…..when you get that new furniture…..when the baby comes…..when you get a new job, a new house, a vacation. The list of seeking is endless. The pursuit of happiness in things and others is endless.
The Higher Self treasurers the present moment. It understands the present moment is the seat of action. Everything that has happened and everything that ever will happen in your life happened in a present moment. It is a place of peace and calm. Worry comes when your mind is absorbed in future events and grief comes when your mind is absorbed by the past. Whenever worry or grief absorbs your thoughts, bring yourself into the present moment. Check your senses…smell the air, listen to the sounds of your surroundings, feel the textures around you, taste something, or focus intently on anything close to you. All of your senses will bring you into the present moment. Breathe deeply. Feel your lungs expand. Exhale…feel the breath leave your body. Ask yourself; “What at this present moment is lacking?” The answer will always be…..”Nothing.” The moment of NOW is God’s gift, the ‘present’.
As often as you can, bring yourself into this present moment. Close your eyes. Feel that aliveness within from your toes up to your crown. This aliveness is your Higher Self. It is the part of you that will never change. You felt that aliveness when you were ten years old and will still feel it when you are eighty years old. And one day when you realize you’ve left your body behind, you’ll still feel that aliveness.
For now, Earlynn’s just sayin’; “When we control our ego and listen to our Higher Self, our life blossoms with peace, love and harmony. “
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