How much time do you spend waiting? Waiting in line at the post office……waiting for a traffic jam to clear…… waiting for an appointment…… waiting to finish work……waiting for your bread to finish baking……waiting for the kids to come home from school….these are all small daily waiting periods.
Have you ever thought about how much of your time you spend waiting? Listen to those around you to see how many people spend most of their time in a holding pattern of waiting. Waiting creates a subconscious conflict between the here and now and where you want to be. We become so absorbed in waiting, we actually miss what is going on in the present moment.
Suppose you are waiting in a line to buy some of your favorite doughnuts at the bakery. The customer at the counter cannot decide what flavors and the amount of doughnuts to buy. You already know you want a dozen raspberry bismarks. You are in a hurry to get home to watch your favorite TV show. “I think I’ll get six maple bars and six apple turnovers,” she says. “Or maybe I should get two maple bars, two powdered doughnuts, two apple turnovers, two old fashioned doughnuts and two eclairs…….but then….. I might not get what everybody likes………Oh, lets just make that a dozen glazed doughnuts……no, no, make that two dozen glazed and one dozen chocolate.” Meanwhile your thoughts don’t stop…..”What is wrong with this lady? Why can’t she make up her mind? Can’t she see there are people WAITING?” By the time you get to the counter, you’re stressed.
Could your wait have been more pleasant and productive? Of course! You could have used the time to notice your surroundings and others around you. You might even have been amused at her indecision or empathetic recognizing we all suffer from insecurity when making choices for others. You could have taken a few deep breaths, and centered yourself in gratitude, as you looked for opportunities to raise the energy of others waiting in line. The customer at the counter will take whatever time she needs to make her purchase. Your anxious thinking is not going to speed the process. It will, however, keep you in a state of waiting and wishing things were different. It is said that life is what happens while your’re waiting and making plans for the future.
Life is full of these short term waiting periods. But what about long term waiting? It is not uncommon for people to spend their whole life waiting to start living. Examples of long term waiting are waiting for a vacation, waiting for a meaningful relationship, waiting for prosperity, waiting to be important, waiting to earn a college degree, and waiting for enlightenment. There is nothing wrong with striving to improve your life situation, but the problem comes with thinking the future holds more promise than here and now. This kind of thinking reduces the quality of your life by making you lose the present moment.
Eckhart Tolle in his book, The Power of Now says; ‘There is nothing wrong with striving to improve your life situation. You can improve your life situation, but you cannot improve your life. Life in primary. Life is your deepest inner Being. It is already whole, complete, perfect. Your life situation consists of your circumstances and your experiences. There is nothing wrong with setting goals and striving to achieve things. The mistake lies in using it as a substitute for the feeling of life, for Being. The only point of access for that is the Now. You are then like an architect who pays no attention to the foundation of a building but spends a lot of time working on the superstructure.”
“For example, many people are waiting for prosperity. It cannot come in the future. When you honor, acknowledge and fully accept your present reality – who you are – where you are – what you are doing right now – when you fully accept what you have got, you are grateful for what you have got, grateful for what is, grateful for Being. Gratitude for the present moment and the fullness of life now is true prosperity. It cannot come in the future. Then, in time, that prosperity manifests for you in various ways.”
So the next time you find yourself in a “waiting mode,” snap out of it! Come into the present moment. Just be and enjoy Being.
For now, Earlynn’s just sayin’; “Gratitude for who you are, where you are and what you are doing right now will keep you in the miracle moment of NOW.”
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