Good conversation is a skill. To develop good conversational skills, I suggest three basic rules:
Rule number one – Don’t interrupt. Be patient. Listen. Let them find the right word. Don’t suggest words or finish their sentences. Let them fully express themselves.
Rule number two – Never dominate the conversation out of harmony. Pause after each statement and wait for the other person to reply. If the other person wants to speak, let it happen. If the other person is content to let you continue, do so. Be versatile. If you sense the other person wishes to dominate the conversation, fall back and let it happen. But if my conversational partner wants me to dominate, I step forward in the conversation and dominate more. The key is to be flexible.
Rule number three – Connect with what is on the other person’s mind. If asked where I went on my last vacation, I take a minute or two to tell the story of where I went. Then I use that question as a clue they may want to talk about where they went on their last vacation. To repeat a bit of what the other has said, stimulates the conversation. For example; if they say; “I put the boat out on the lake last weekend.” Rather than responding with something I did, I say; “Out on the lake?” Then let them pick up the conversation.
Remember: Let people fully express themselves.
Fall back or take the lead depending on your conversational partner’s desire to dominate.
Connect with what is on the other person’s mind.
For now, Earlynn’s Just Sayin’…….