Kermit and I just returned from a once in a lifetime vacation and cruise. The destination was not important, but the time spent with our family…..now there’s something important. Thirty seven family members together for ten days was really an incredibly fun experience. Our group included our children, our grand children, their partners, and two of our five great grand kids. plus two of Kermit’s sisters. Unfortunately three of our grandchildren and three great grand kids were not with us. Below you’ll see what an amazing family we are privileged to parent:
Sadly, Kermit’s two sisters, Sheila and Shauna, are missing from the picture. The plan was to take our family picture and then add them for additional pictures. But after taking a few pictures our cameraman gave a two thumbs up sign and everyone scattered thinking the session was finished. Trying to gather them again was like dumping a can of worms onto the lawn and trying to pick them up again.
Not long before our trip, Shauna was speaking with a friend when she mentioned our upcoming vacation. Her friend said; “Our family took a similar vacation and when it was over no one was talking to each other.” Shauna replied; “That’s not our family.” As I muse over our family time trying to identify what makes our family so enjoyable, I realize there are a few things we do and some things we do not do that make it possible to truly enjoy being together.
THINGS WE DO:
1. We love one another and we express our love often including pats on the back, hugs, kisses, winks, smiles and outright laughter.
2. We accept each other. We know some are worry warts, some are totally independant, some need encouragement, some are shy, and some are CrAZy, some are very organized while others are a bit messy, some are early and some are late. We accept and love them for the bundle of traits that are uniquely theirs.
3. Everyone is free to do or not to do anything on the agenda.
4. We assume the best of intentions from all. We all get distracted at times and no one intentionally ignores or slights another.
5. We help one another and look after the best interests of one another.
THINGS WE DO NOT DO:
1. We never talk disparagingly about one another.
2. We do not butt into one another’s business. If asked for an opinion, we give it honestly but NEVER uninvited (except as a parent with our own small children).
3. We do not read minds. We never assume anyone else knows what we want. When we want something from another……we ask.
4. We don’t sit around waiting. The risk you take by being late is the group may leave without you….. nothing personal. It’s just the way it has to be.
5. We don’t try to change each other. We understand people change only when they have a desire within their own heart to change. Be who you are and love unconditionally.
These are just a few things our family does that make being together so much fun. I’m sure there are many more I could have listed. I’d love for you to share with us any tips you have that make family time work for you. We all have room for improvement.
For now, Earlynn’s just sayin’: “Of all my blessings, my wonderful family is at the top of my list.”
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